David and Stephen Flynn
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David and Stephen Flynn

The Happy Pear Podcast

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a consultant clinical psychologist and certified psychosexologist, to dive into a conversation about sexual wellbeing and how it changes throughout the course of life—especially after having children.

Dr. Gurney is a leading expert in sexual health, currently serving as Head of Wellbeing Services at the renowned 56 Dean Street clinic and Director of The Havelock Clinic in London. She is also an author, TED speaker, and regular contributor to major publications like Vogue and Marie Claire. Dr. Gurney’s latest book, How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life, has opened up conversations about the realities of sex in long-term relationships and marriage, and how to maintain intimacy while navigating the challenges of parenthood.

In this insightful discussion, Dr. Gurney shares her expert advice on how couples can foster healthy sexual relationships after having children, the psychological shifts that often occur in the postpartum phase, and the impact of societal expectations on intimacy. She also offers practical tools to reframe how we think about sex in marriage and long-term partnerships, helping couples reconnect and thrive sexually despite life’s many demands.

Episode 173

Main Topics Covered:

  • Sex after kids: How the arrival of children can affect sexual intimacy, and how to rekindle desire while managing the pressures of parenthood.
  • Reframing sex in long-term relationships: The importance of shifting your mindset about sex in marriage and understanding that desire changes over time.
  • Common challenges faced by parents: The psychological and emotional toll of parenthood on intimacy, and how to navigate the changes as a couple.
  • Practical tips for maintaining a healthy sex life: Simple yet effective strategies for improving sexual wellbeing, including communication, redefining intimacy, and managing expectations.
  • Dr. Gurney’s new book: How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life—an essential guide for couples looking to maintain connection and passion after starting a family.

Tune in for a candid, expert-driven conversation that sheds light on the realities of sex after kids, offering practical solutions for couples who want to keep their relationships intimate, vibrant, and fulfilling.

Lots of love,

Dave & Steve

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